This is a BIGGIE!!!  This is the one area that most people just can't get right.  Here's a quick and easy rule to remember.  If someone doesn't want to treat you in a considerate, kind, and loving manner; then don't allow them in your life.  Life is to "long" to put up with a bunch of crap and stupidity.  I have no sympathy for those who choose to live with an alcoholic, drug addict, angry person, grouchy person, whiney person, or any other screwed up behavior.  I cannot believe all the books telling people how to deal with a partner who has "behavioral" problems. Listen, the BEST way to deal with them is to simply kick their sorry rear-end out the door and divorce them.I realize that this is easier said than done, but the sooner you do it, the happier you'll be.  If you don't give shit, then why take it?   unless you just get off on their stupidity and abuse and the chaos that comes from living with someone like that.  If that's the case, then stay with them.  I am well aware that many people enjoy playing the role of enabler, mommy, and  cheerleader.  But really folks, C'mon, stop helping them and help yourself.

I will now speak briefly for those men (of which I am one and proud of it:) ]  who are kind, warm, loving, considerate and NICE !!!!!!!!!!!!! When one of you women meet us and fall in love, please remember, treat us in the same manner as we treat you.  Also, DON'T over analyze us!!!   We really are nice. and that is a good thing.  A very good thing:) Here's something else that all you women might want to remember, when
nice guys don't finish first,  neither do you........think about that:)

And men, the same thing goes for nice women.  Be as kind to them, as they are to you.  Life is so much more pleasant that way.